I remember once in class, Lena said “always come in and expect the class to be hot and hard.  Be surprised when it’s cold and easy.”  I have since tried to bring that to other areas of my life, and boy has it made things more doable.  When I sail a race and I expect it to be long and freezing, I can relax and have fun out there because I got what I expected.  It’s a tiny shift in perspective that has made a huge difference.  It has made me realize that managing expectations is so paramount to the realization of happiness.

Often times for me, managing my expectations has more to do with having no expectations.  I do best on my yoga mat when my mind is clear, and I am able to focus on what is presently happening.  Not bracing for a flailing standing bow if i was failing at standing head to knee.  I just want to enjoy the moments when I am doing well, and work through the moments when I could be doing better.  By doing this, I think I can truly live in my moments of happiness, and I have definitely been having a lot of those lately.

Of course that’s the kicker: you have to be willing to stay present in your moments of sadness as well, and that’s not nearly as simple.  How easy is is to count down the seconds until balancing stick is over, or to try to think about something else when your throat is choked in rabbit pose?  Those are the times when staying mentally engaged in the postures is difficult, and similarly the difficult times in life are when I would rather have a glass of wine (or four) than problem solve.  

More later, I have to run to class.  Day 13!

Presently yours,

C

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